Tell me about a time you had to work with a colleague you didn’t get along with. What did you do?

How to Answer

Not every colleague becomes a friend and that’s okay. The key is how you stay professional, communicate clearly, and protect collaboration even when personalities clash.

Here’s a strong response that shows emotional intelligence, maturity, and problem-solving:

“In a past role, I worked closely with a colleague whose communication style was very direct which often came off as dismissive in meetings. It created tension at first. Instead of letting it build, I asked to have a quick one-on-one. I shared that I valued their input but sometimes felt cut off or rushed. To my surprise, they appreciated the honesty and explained they were just under pressure and didn’t realize how it came across. After that, our collaboration improved significantly and we ended up co-leading a successful project together.”

What makes this a strong answer?

  • 🤝 It shows a mature approach to conflict
  • 🗣 It highlights direct but respectful communication
  • 📈 It ends with a positive outcome and growth

Other valid angles you could use include:

  • 🧠 Working with someone who had a very different work style
  • ⏱ Dealing with a team member who missed deadlines
  • 🔁 Resolving friction over how feedback was given or received
💡 Pro Tip: Avoid blaming or venting. Focus on what you did to improve the relationship, not just how the other person acted.

Why this question matters

Teamwork isn’t just about harmony, it’s about resilience. Recruiters ask this question because:

  • 🧩 Conflict is inevitable in high-performing teams
  • 🧠 They want to know if you reflect or react
  • 🛠 They’re looking for real-world collaboration skills

This question reveals whether you can navigate difficult relationships without harming the bigger picture.

Insight: You don’t need to “win” you need to show that you kept things professional and productive.

What the Recruiter Is Really Evaluating

This isn’t a personality quiz, it’s a test of your maturity, communication, and emotional control under pressure.

What They AskWhat They’re Evaluating
“Tell me about a difficult colleague”Your emotional intelligence
“What did you do?”Your communication skills and courage
“How did it end?”Your collaboration ability and focus on results

And silently, they’re asking themselves:

  • 🧊 Will this person stay calm under pressure?
  • 🧭 Can they resolve tension or just avoid it?
  • 🗂 Will they protect team dynamics or create drama?

Bottom line: Every team has friction. What counts is whether you know how to deal with it constructively.

Keep collecting examples where you handled hard conversations well those stories are gold in behavioral interviews.

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